Where do you feel the emotion in your body? Harshly critical of appearance — Spending a lot of time in front of the mirror checking for flaws. The thought of gaining weight is probably extremely frightening, and you may be tempted to resist. This can make it hard at first for friends and family to spot the warning signs. When you take that coping mechanism away, you will be confronted with the feelings of fear and helplessness your anorexia helped you avoid.
Having anorexia can distort the way your loved one thinks—about their body, the world around them, even your motivations for trying to help.
Avoidance and resistance only make negative emotions stronger. Developing a healthier relationship with food entails:. Realize that you are NOT your feelings. Avoid threats, scare tactics, angry outbursts, and put-downs. Obsession with calories, fat grams, and nutrition — Reading food labels, measuring and weighing portions, keeping a food diary, reading diet books.